The Urban Dictionary defines this as: an overlapping abbreviation of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), and Sadism and Masochism (SM).
Today's fetish is just that...BDSM...The pleasure of the right kind of pain. So, what to bring to the 'table'? Chains, whips, gags, leather, paddles, clamps, cuffs, or anything else you would like to use to bring pain.
What is it?
It's impossible to go into any of the other fetishes with out first talking about the one that started it all, BDSM. And all you can really do is touch on it. If you wanted to really get into the intricacies with out involving several volumes on a sturdy shelf and maybe a couple of volunteers in leather. BDSM may not have been the first fetish but it goes back...way back and had some influence on everything since. Since the spectrum of BDSM can go go from being on top to the most extreme everyone (believe it or not) has done some degree of BDSM.
You have most likely seen some kind of BDSM on TV or in the movies. It often involves leather, bindings, cuffs, whips, or chains, but it doesn't need to. It can be as simple as one naked person treating another naked person very poorly physically or psychologically. It can also be much more complicated, but remember the one person is not actually being treated poorly. In a sense BDSM is very complicated.
Considerations
The most important thing to remember is ANY BDSM play is that the safety and comfort for you and your partner are paramount. BDSM might look dark and dangerous, but actually it is (or should be) consensual play between two people who love each other. BDSM does not mean you torture your partner, both parties need to be on board. Long term harm or death are not the outcome of these situations. Most couples, or groups, have a safe word they use. You could call out 'banana' and your partner would know to stop whatever they are doing because you feel uncomfortable. It would be good to decide on the word before you start playing.
Please stay tuned for the next fetish next week...Telephone Scatalogia (or Telephonicophilia)...yeah I know...
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